41 Is too old to decide on a career!!!!

This morning was rough, my three year old didn't want to go to daycare she said that she wanted to go shopping to buy a new dress!!!I wonder where she got that from?, so I had to bribe her to get dressed and promised that after school we will go shopping, I think I am setting myself up for the drama when she turns thirteen.
While driving the baby to daycare I got a call from my best friend Danielle, she was having a mini crisis, her DJ fling has fallen head over heels in love and she is stressing over it. DJ falling in love was not supposed to happen, they have only been dating for four months and in the beginning DJ was not at all interested in settling down but Danielle felt that if he was spending everyday at her house, cooking, cleaning, picking her up from work, giving her money, then how could he say he wasn't ready to settle down? So she called him and told him that she thought they should take a break and slow things down, that agreement between the two lasted a day, LOL!! He picked her up from work two days later and they went right back into the swing of things. They got along great he was doing all of the right things, that was until they had the conversation of what he saw himself doing in the future after all he was 41 years old and a DJ four days a week and cleaned two buildings the other three days. Not to knock his hustle but does any of these jobs have a 401k? How much stability is either one of these jobs, he has three kids and she has two, five kids all together how will everyone be supported? Danielle started to feel like maybe this relationship long term would not be such a good idea. Then came mother's day, he took her shopping and gave her money, he even got her AC in her house fixed. At the end of the night he asked her for thirty dollars because he paid for the AC to be repaired, poor DJ didn't even realized he signed his own walking papers when he asked for that money. The day after that he went away to see some family and his phone was cut off for non - payment and yes things do happen but,
this was the third time in two months, your 41 years old, there are many unlimited plans to choose from. Then came the tsunami dj called Danielle from someone else's phone and asked her to call the guy that pays him to clean the buildings and ask him if he could advance his check. WHAT?????? DJ your killing me!!! HOW OLD ARE YOU???
Danielle couldn't wait for him to come back from his trip, she was calling it off for good this guy was crazy, it wasn't about the money it was about the stability and future goals and he didn't seem to have any.
DJ returned and took the break up hard, he had to email her for about a week because his phone was still cut off ( A MESS !!!) He has been trying to reform himself and got a job interview, calling Danielle to tell her hoping that she would give him another chance. But she has lost interest, the fact that she was asked to call his boss for an advance on his check so he could pay his phone bill showed her what she may have to deal with in the future.
It's funny how in the beginning she wanted him to settle down with her because he is an all around good guy however, being content with minimal was not good enough for Danielle and rightfully so. Be careful what you ask for you may just get it!!!! :)